Conversations are needed to keep kids safe while helping them navigate the complexities of the digital landscape and one B.C. mom is using her own experiences to prevent other youth from becoming victims of cyberbullying.
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Her daughter乌鸦传媒檚 experience is one of the most well-known stories of cyberbullying in Canada and has gained international attention. Using flashcards to explain how she was harassed and extorted by an anonymous online predator, the 15-year-old posted a video before she died by suicide in 2012. Almost exactly a decade later, Dutch man Aydin Coban was sentenced in October 2022 to 13 years in prison for threatening, exploiting and harassing the B.C. teen with intimate photos she had sent him.
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While the conversations surrounding cyberbullying have changed in the last decade, Todd said there乌鸦传媒檚 more work to be done.
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Cyberbullying is often 乌鸦传媒渕ore overwhelming than traditional bullying because access to a target is 24/7,乌鸦传媒� according to pinkshirtday.ca.
In her work as a teacher and a digital literacy and citizenship coordinator, Todd said there is a lot for parents to understand especially with new apps continuously coming out. She recommended parents, caregivers and educators find a few go-to educational resources and gave Telus Wise, Common Sense Media, MediaSmarts, and the Canadian Centre for Child Protection as examples.
But her biggest anti-bullying tool is having direct conversations, whether that be through role-playing different scenarios or discussing privacy settings on various apps. 乌鸦传媒淵ou can乌鸦传媒檛 effect change without conversation,乌鸦传媒� she said.
A December 2022 survey put out by MediaSmarts found 51 per cent of youth have a household rule for sites they are not allowed to visit. The survey asked 1,058 youth in Grades 4 to 11. The survey also found that youth with a household rule about treating people with respect are more likely to agree it乌鸦传媒檚 important to speak out when they see racist and sexist content online.
乌鸦传媒淲hat they [MediaSmarts] reported out is something we see consistently all the time. We find that schools are doing their part as best as they can but we find that a lot of parents aren乌鸦传媒檛 doing what they can as parents,乌鸦传媒� said Darren Laur, co-founder of internet safety and digital literacy education specialist company The White Hatter.
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Todd added, 乌鸦传媒渋f they don乌鸦传媒檛 understand and don乌鸦传媒檛 feel comfortable talking about it, our kids won乌鸦传媒檛 understand it.乌鸦传媒�
While phone monitoring apps, such as Jiminy, exist to use algorithms to find sources of concern or interest on children乌鸦传媒檚 phones, Todd still emphasized the importance of conversation.
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One opportunity to speak with children about online safety can be Pink Shirt Day, which is marked in Canada on the last Wednesday of February, falling on Feb. 22 this year. It was inspired by a group of Nova Scotia students who wore pink shirts to school in support of another student who experienced homophobic bullying.
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If you or someone you know is experiencing cyberbullying, please visit gov.bc.ca/gov/content/erase for resources and an anonymous reporting tool.
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